“The moment I became sexually active, I badly wanted to please myself without always needing a man or having to deal with the sexist ways men treat women. But, I felt ashamed that I was touching myself and felt I was probably under the influence of a bad spirit or demon.”
Thus being said I’m not saying that I don’t need to have sex with a partner for pleasure; I’m saying that I did not always want to deal with that sexist way men tend to view and treat girls that they were having sex with (some guys can be annoying with the way they view women; as objects).
Growing up, I always had the mindset that women should never be caught masturbating. This mentality was induced by society and religious groups.
I find it so sad that many women have been trained with the mentality that their bodies are not really theirs but belong to only their husbands or men in general.
It’s also sad because women also feel whenever they need to be pleasured they must have a man. It’s not wrong to need a man for pleasure; I crave sex too!! It is wrong to feel only him has the right to give you pleasure, only him has the right to touch you and know your body and be in control of your body.
It’s your body!!!! You have every right to touch yourself when you want to and no man owns you.
It’s not an abomination neither are you possessed if you learn to and start pleasuring yourself.
If you can have sex without a guilty conscience then you can masturbate without feeling guilty too.
It’s time to own your sexuality and be proud of your sexuality. I masturbate and I’m not ashamed that I do.
With this being said it is also important to remember you don’t have to do it everyday nor every second… Too much of everything isn’t good also. Neither should you have sex everyday nor every hour.
Below are just a few benefits I’d love to share that I noticed happens when I masturbate.
MASTURBATION IS A FORM OF SELF-LOVE
It helps to really empower. When you masturbate, it’s you carving out a moment to spend with yourself. It’s a moment you breathe, don’t worry about anything or anyone except yourself. At that point, you’re so concentrated about you and your pleasure. It is also a way to feel empowered sexually ( especially when you’re comfortable with it and you’re not ashamed of it) as you are in control of your body and you’re free. It is also a moment of connection; connecting with our body.
IT EASES OFF STRESS
When we orgasm during masturbation,our body releases endorphins and these endorphins help us to relax and ease off any sort of tension and stress that was there beforehand.
IT HELPS US FALL ASLEEP AND SLEEP BETTER
IT ALLOWS YOU FIND OUT MORE ABOUT WHAT YOU LIKE SEXUALLY
While masturbating, you get to explore and find what works for you to make you orgasm. As you are focused on your pleasure alone also and not about pleasuring anyone else. Use toys, watch porn, learn more about your turn-on points and your turn-off points without having to have anyone else there watching you. Find what makes you orgasm also.
IT HELPS ALSO TO SPICE UP OUR SEX LIVES.
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