Blessing Okoro, popularly known as Blessing CEO and a respected relationship therapist, has shed light on why some men perceive their wives’ success as a threat to their marriages.
According to Blessing, many women have shared how their husbands become insecure when they start achieving career or financial success. However, she explains that the root of the problem isn’t necessarily the success itself, but the shift in attitude that often comes with it.
She observes that success can sometimes lead women to adopt traits commonly associated with masculinity such as authority and a need for control. As a woman begins to provide financially, she may unconsciously start to compete with her husband, which can upset the traditional dynamics in the relationship.
Blessing, a mother of two, advises women who earn more than their partners to maintain a sense of softness and femininity in their relationships. She states, “Men are not intimidated by your success alone they are unsettled by the masculine energy that can come with it. When a woman becomes a provider, society often sees her as ‘becoming a man.’ This shift can cause tension because a man’s sense of power is closely tied to his role as the provider.”
She cautions women to be mindful of how they express their achievements. “No matter how much you earn, always remember to stay gentle and embrace your womanhood. If you begin to assert your financial dominance openly, such as boasting about a bigger salary, it could push your husband away. He may respond by seeking affection elsewhere or even leaving the marriage.”
Blessing’s insights highlight the delicate balance successful women may need to navigate in relationships, especially in societies where traditional gender roles are deeply ingrained.